Thursday, March 28

36 Comments

  1. Was the “I do” intended to portray the double entendre that is so evident to this reader? Or were you merely quoting that forgettable song by the singer-turned-reality-star Lisa Loeb?

  2. Sean: The “I do.” was meant only to reinforce the feeling that I really do miss it.

    Munchkin: there seems to be a lack of infatuating girls on hand here. ;)

  3. Hey Guys.
    In my 68 years of experience. Girls are where the Guys are. Look around. Uncle Riley

  4. Thanks Uncle Riley, but unless we want a girl with more miles on her than my old Chemistry teacher’s volkswagon, pickins are slim (especially in the hedonistic South Florida area). I believe that perhaps the following would be a proper conclusion to draw:

    God is where girls and guys are and when He is ready, He plays his own game of eHarmony.

  5. Sean: you make me laugh. ;)

    All: I didn’t say I missed falling in love, just into infatuation. You know, the experience you have that you don’t really control, when you meet someone and they bowl you over? Even if that person isn’t who God wants you to marry, the wild emotional ride is fun (at least, I remember it being so).

  6. For those who think I am crazy, the joke about the Volkswagon is more funny if you knew Dr. Oliver…

    As far as infatuation, I miss it too, all of it except the loss of sleep, the lag in performance of one’s duties, loss of appetite, the walking in circles because I don’t know what else to do with myself…

  7. Sean: I always had more energy, got more done, and generally milked the emotional high for all it was worth. It was a good kind of distraction, and drove me to be more proactive and diligent (in the hopes I would be noticed).

  8. Jason: A profoundly gigantic amount of peanut-gallery comments swirling in my head. I’ll limit it to one. A quote of yours, actually. One which I will never let you forget. “I don’t flirt.” But you obviously wish you did.

    Ruth: He’s too old to be infatuated. ;-)

    Sean: the joke was funny anyhow.

    Addison: In a way, my thoughts exactly.

  9. Harrison: If I remember correctly, I amended that statement to “I don’t flirt anymore”. And you’re right, I miss flirting. It was fun (though often destructive). Flirting is a pretty flexible term anyhow. It can mean different things to different people.

    And who says I’m too old to be infatuated. If by that you mean, I’m too mature to be infatuated, you’d be right. Mores the pity…

  10. Seriously, though, it is maturity to recognize the unreality present in infatuation and to treat the emotions of others with greater care. I just wish that Disney would move past the whole infatuation=love thing, too!

    And I agree with Sean about God’s ability to do the whole eHarmony thing Himself. I suppose a seeming lack of numbers of elegible people in our given area of the world just makes the miracle all the greater =)

  11. Two things:

    1) This infatuation post, Jason, has got to have set a walljm.com record as far as comments are concerned. Twenty! Twenty comments…wow, almost legal.

    2)The son of the publisher of Homeschool Digest got married about 7 or 8 years ago and co-wrote a great article with his wife about how they met and got married. Ms. Joyous, if you’d like to read a miraculous tale of “love” (this word is in quotes for a good reason) then read that story. I promise that all things are possible if their story was. In fact, why don’t you all go out and read that story. Here is how to get a free copy:

    “What God Had Joined Together” is available as a 24-page gift booklet available from Wisdom’s Gate. Write to Wisdom’s Gate at P.O. Box 374, Covert, MI 49043.

  12. Sean: In recent times, you’re right. 21 is a bit of a record. I did have a thread that broached 80+ on catholic heresies which you can find here: Catholic debate, the thread moves to another post midway. Both posts have about 40 comments. That’s my record.

  13. I think if you miss being infatuated, then perhaps you are not mature enough to be over it…

    yeah, I know, no respect for adults…

  14. Joy: It is indeed. This is possibly my shortest post, though if you look back far enough you might find a smaller.

    Harrison: How pert!

  15. I hope God’s eharmony kicks in sooner rather than later. There are no more babies around and I want some Wall nieces and nephews. PLUS, year round infatuation! Well, it sometimes dims, but it’s there. I’m still infatuated with Jeremy and love him so much. (You’d really know if you saw how many random txt messages or IMs I send to him. Makes me feel slightly teenager-ish.)

  16. Just to let all you guys know, there are great girls out there. You just can’t see them for some reason. I think you all need to be careful about making such general comments about us. We could be saying the same thing about guys but we aren’t. Please be careful. Some of us live in the same area you all live in and we aren’t commenting about you! You are great guys. It would be nice to be thought about as a noticeable girl.

    About infatuation, I have yet to be proud of being infatuated with any of the guys that I had crushes on. I think that as we mature we should be looking and hoping for something more than just infatuation that will only last for a short time and end up hurting someone (more then likely that someone will be yourself). I feel bad for someone that wants to stay in that time of their life, even if it makes them feel good because life isn’t about feeling good.

    Infatuation is only surface and as we grow in the Lord we should start looking at others as more than just cute or what ever your word might be. You should see them for who they really are on the inside. Yes, you should like how they look on the outside but the inside should mean more to you.

  17. nobody is EVER too old to be infatuated. Guys NEVER mature enough to be beyond simple infatuation.

    *laughs* aah.. infatuation is very.. interesting. =P

  18. Esther

    (Jason can vouch for this (back in the days when I dated)

    I have never been much for looks as a first means of attraction. In fact, I’d rather take that out of the picture (within reason) altogether. The problem is, Esther, that if you are who you say you are and you belong to this “underground” of girls that guys like us are looking for, then how in the world do we find you?

    Living in South Florida makes for very slim pickings (although pickings were slim when I lived in StL). Churches don’t offer anything (and I’ve never been one to use a Church as a singles connection). Obviously the normal, hedonistic routes don’t work for a Christian so I am left seriously wondering what’s up.

    I say this to make a point. If I knew that a girl was Godly and willing and that her parents (or those who had spiritual authoirty over her in their absence) had prayed about it and gave their blessing,
    I would commit myself to marriage to her sight unseen.

    But I live in a dream world if I expect a miracle to happen. Not that I don’t think one could occur, certainly God is capable, but to expect one would be unwise and unreal.

    So, in light of that, Esther, what say you when we males complain? I’ve tried everything, including not trying at all! So where does that leave those in that special fraternity called Single Christian Men?

  19. Sean: all I can say is that we are here. God has to be the one that leads you to the right one. We are out there, though.

    Sometimes I feel like there are no guys in this world that would ever look at me and want to marry me. I just have to keep in mind that I will be led as I stay in the way that God is leading me. When the time comes for me to get married it will be the perfect time in God’s book and the perfect man for me. I just have one job- stay in the way the Lord is leading me.

    I am sure that you are doing that. You just have to keep it up. I have seen so many people that didn’t wait for God’s mate for them and they are all in a sad place in their lives. Their lives ruined, people hurt and children that wonder what they did wrong to make their parents break up. So keep up the good work and wait!

  20. Well, Esther, in reading your previous post (and through recent experiences) I have come to believe that men in today’s society are quite cowardly when it comes to pursuing a woman (don’t yell at me because I used the forbidden word). I suppose that this is why we tend to complain about being lonely (or missing infatuatons). It is ashamed that the dating culture that is so prevalent has, in essence, trained an entire generation of males to fear rejection so much that inaction becomes the norm. (Now I know we all know guys who will chase after anything that breathes, but those guys only want one thing [in most cases]). We complain because, I suppose, it makes us feel like we’ve tried and tried but to no avail when in fact, it is that we have hardly tried at all.

    Truly, the best women are the easiest to find because they have no one pursuing them! They are waiting for us! They are out there sitting patiently, trusting God for us to come along and simply act. They are not alone because they are unliked, unwanted, or under-appreciated. They are alone because God has designed them for waiting. And what a truly wonderful design it is! If they are waiting, and we are looking, then what is stopping any of us? Time? That is of little consequence to a God who has little regard (or need) for it.

    Isn’t it a strange coincidence that God has placed us in this time and in this place to fulfill His will at our every turn? I suppose that, instead of cursing the manna in favor of a good prime-rib, we should be thankful that we have a God who cares about us so much that he would design and implement such amazing and unique formulas for our lives.

    So, I for one will not complain anymore. First, out of fear for feeling foolish once I am married (insert smiley face), and second, out of fear for God in whose image we were made and by whose inspiration we breathe.

  21. Sean,

    If you really mean all you said than that was great! You are on the right track.

    I just have one question, are good girls easy to find or hard?

  22. Depends on who is looking. God sees everything and since He is the one looking, I suppose it is easy. If I try to look, it becomes very very difficult. I guess not that much more difficult, just more frustrating. I tend to want to bang my head against the wall a lot.

  23. Although on the whole, I’d say hard. Though the problem isn’t finding a good girl but the right good girl. And one who is single :)